Maybe not right away, but they will.
The fire in you warms me.
My coolness keeps you from burning to a crisp.
Manage my happiness!
But my needs are subject to your approval.
Navigating your ego is treacherous.
Peace and quiet, no conflict!
There’s no room for mine.
A legion of brave women – #metoo
You do know you are entitled to define and pursue what it means to you, right?
Do you even know how to do happy or what being in that state will do for you?
Figure it out before it’s too late!
Don’t let anyone tell you what you should do or how happy to feel about anything.
It’s not any of their business!
Your right to pursue your happy place is guaranteed. So get it!
But be careful when you approach someone else’s territory of how they define that pursuit though.
Don’t cross into it if you aren’t ready to celebrate with them, otherwise, stay out!
Let people Just Be what makes them happy, and may they respect you the same.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE!
Crying out in an I Don’t Care World.
The answer is silence. Crickets…
It doesn’t pay attention; life continues.
Understand that. Know it.
Try not to feel hurt by it.
Keep moving… one foot in front of the other.
Strength can come again. Just let it.
Don’t let the indifference of life determine if you’ll accept it.
Keep speaking despite the obvious disability of existence.
The beauty comes when you hear the truth you need.
In reality, life is not the teacher.
But you must be a willing student.
**Originally published PhiloSusi 12/31/16 Re-posted here with minor revisions
It’s a struggle to define the concept of life, but imagine it’s another word for time.
Contentment is not just accepting.
Acceptance is settling for things you didn’t achieve.
Achieving creates happiness.
Happiness is living your life in your way.
If fully engaged in living life, that’s action. You are not simply watching time go by but you must decide if you are going to connect to who you genuinely are. And especially, what you want out of life.
Life exists with you in it or not; every minute continuing to go by.
Your time is precious. Really.
In other words, YOU are precious; your LIFE is precious. Really.
**Originally published PhiloSusi 7/9/16 Re-posted here with minor revisions.
May your emerging innocence lead you to knowledge.
When you learn, may you want to know more.
If you hurt, may it only be for a moment.
As you laugh, may you always remain joyous for longer.
May you live intensely and love just as fierce.
Politics is about gaining power. Period.
In life, we are all, in some shape or form, trying to achieve power over our situations or attain it to feel more control. It’s having authority and dominion over our existence; it is the governance of our own space. And with it comes the conflict from individuals or other parties who are hoping for the ability to rule over us.
This is the eternal struggle.
We may not like to admit it, but we are wrangling with the process of politics. Yes, exactly what is occurring in the realm of our elected officials. The current political arena is quite a spectacle. It’s actually a lesson on how not to behave as we go about the day-to-day management of our own power struggles. Their display feels like a veritable asylum as we watch the different personalities and styles making headlines in full-view of their constituents. In many cases, shame on them! This is who represents us? But I digress. I’ll leave more commentary about that in another piece.
The question remains – What contributes to achieving a sense of control over our lives to retain a feeling of personal power?
My opinion is simply this – it requires an individual who possesses critical thinking skills.
Being a critical thinker means a person will make reasoned judgments that are logical and well-thought out. This leads to making better decisions. And this, in turn, makes for situations that are more desirable, and more in your control.
Of course, there will be situations which will be out of our hands. The unexpected, unfortunate tragedy and chaos that can randomly take a perceived path or plan in a completely different direction is just that – out of our control. These situations just happen to us for no reason. Other factors which can contribute to a person’s inability to retain their power are devastating medical situations including mental illness. But what sets people who have critical thinking skills apart from people who don’t is that their reactions are inherently different.
Reasonable and logical approaches to any situation will help you to remain calm and collected. The opposite of that reaction is hysteria and giving into emotional impulses without assessing the situation. This is not being in control, nor is it demonstrating having power over an event that is impacting you. And will likely have further consequences from reacting “out-of-control.”
It would seem that some individuals are just adept at life or endured a lot of personal adversity and decided enough is enough. They have the confidence to accept challenges which would attempt to take away their power. It’s as if instinct just kicks in and they anticipate what solution every situation requires. There isn’t a hesitation or misstep in what to do next. But I would say that I can almost guarantee these people had influencers. They could have been teachers, parents, mentors or have taken a hard beating from life. Also, it’s likely (but not necessary) they were given a solid foundation of empowerment in their early childhood. Good parents and teachers would insist on raising up a child to utilize their learned critical thinking skills at all times. My personal opinion is that these types of thinkers also remember to take away something from every situation in their life. Every challenge to navigate for control only added to their already substantial foundation of empowerment.
So you want to be a human in control of your personal power?
Learn how to think critically!
We’re short, balding, graceful, fat, average, intelligent, disabled, round, skinny, tall, naturally gorgeous, manually made-up mediocre, exceptional, dull and so many more labels that others use to describe what they see. That’s their impression.
How do you see yourself? Are you those labels? Do you accept it or reject it?
Whatever description you associate yourself with, own it.
It is you, and it’s ok to be you.
Don’t let anyone define you.
That’s your job.
We are more than the labels people want to give us.
“Dead family walking!”
The family was chaotic from day one.
They being an absentee, alcoholic father, and a probably-suffering-from-a-mental-illness mother not understanding love.
A child being cheated out of something before her existence had ever really begun.
So many unusual life lessons played out where mediocrity would flourish.
Determined small steps tested the authorities; she tried where she could.
Her willingness to rise above engaged with her persistently in the aftermath of their lives.
She took control of all in her realm, determined to do what was best.
The past is now safely in the rear-view mirror.
Today promised ever-increasing clarity going forward.