Reblog – Pencil by Deepa

A mother’s worry carries past the legal age of adulthood. This piece eloquently describes how hard it is to let go and let them make their own choices and especially their mistakes.

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celebrating
a proud moment
on son’s graduation day
looking back from
pencils to pen
I am equally scared
that mistakes
would be
harder to erase now….

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Wordle #464

The glow in her face reflected the correct amount of money had been spent on her. She was such a mean and self-centered little brat. Her voice made this awful din, continuously thrumming when she didn’t get what she wanted—what a whiny cretin she was. Santa’s imaginary slide down the chimney and his short stint spent drinking the milk and cookies left for him made her wave her hands excitedly. He’d sure have a stain on his reputation had they not made it look convincing! Fiddling with the clasp on my chain, my thought was, “Score one for the parents!”

Inspired by The Sunday Whirl

Pieces Of Me

all we consist of
resides in our progeny
a creation from two bloodlines
our biology dictating
the continuation of self
a birthing watered down
or a carbon copy ensues
the hair, the eyes
the frame and more
resemblance gives credence
to which clan it belongs

parents, the ones who care
give even more of themselves
sometimes, to the brink of thresholds
from where there is no return
all for the sake of the child
spawn filled to capacity
with the best of who the creators and mentors are
remedying the worst in themselves
while simultaneously cleansing
their seed of poor judgment
every ounce of care given
is preparation
for the next generation
before again passing
the cycle of life torch
some might say ad nauseam

First Love

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if only human babies
came into this world
feeling unconditional
self-acceptance

or that they had a deep
understanding of themselves
seeing only a healthy, positive self-image
possessing a tremendous amount of self-respect

right from the beginning
it would be helpful
for them to know how
to enjoy their own company

able to forgive themselves as necessary
when to say no
and mean it
respecting their boundaries

to be proud of themselves
and their achievements
that it was ok to accept applause
and to pursue their dreams

to understand that challenges
are a part of growth
that they possessed the strength of character
to know what was best

if only they knew all these things at birth…

less damage would be done as they aged
as they felt the cruelty and destructiveness
of the older generations
or the indiscriminate hazards of life

if only their first love would be themselves…

if only we would teach them they are worthy of that love…

Hang Up The Belt, Please

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Spanking children is wrong. Using force and inflicting pain to make a child understand something, no matter how it’s justified, is just abhorrent to me.

I can’t say that was always how I thought about the subject. But I’m glad my opinion has evolved, and I would never consider doing it again.

The idea that hurting a child intentionally, a miniature human you supposedly love, is the way to make them understand some lesson; well, it’s just stupid really. I feel that all it really teaches a child is that the people they love are capable of causing them pain. Might it deter a child from bad behavior? It’s entirely possible. But in my estimation and in published studies, it can also create a whole host of adjustment issues which appear later on down the line in the child’s life.

Add to any future emotional repercussions a child may have as an adult, the spanked child learns to repeat what was done to them in their childhood with the next generation. They will perpetuate the practice because they think it was normal. In reality, though, our society does not condone physical assault by adults on other adults. It’s simply not acceptable in our society. We actually put people in jail for that. But yet, spanking is a tradition which still remains to date. It makes no sense.

So maybe instead of just hitting our children into fearing their parent(s) and/or creating future spankers, let’s do things which would encourage the growth and development of a mature individual. That seems like a reasonable solution. Much better than a violent one.