you have faith i’ll burn
smiling ignorantly now
your mind is shut down
Tag: authenticity
Answerable
No
matter
what the take
is on belief,
what you bring to this
one life is all on you.
You will be judged for it so
have pride in what you do, and take
personal responsibility.
Live your best life, contribute more than take.
The Value Of Thoughts
the important
rich epochal words
in laconic utterances
draw me in
with their martinet style
the writings feel heavy
but light in presentation
i aspire to reach
that level
of intensity
lifting others
in my understanding
The Chase Ends
Life feels like it wants to be figured out, constant searching for answers.
Gratitude ends the hunger of wants, allows us to focus on our needs.
Truth comes with the investment made in ourselves and our world.
Being Heard
we crave it non-stop
is there always an outlet
not always known how
Conclusions
Do people really see who we are or only what they need from us? Are friendships genuinely based on the affection of those characteristics which appeal the most or are they based on a mutual give and take of needs? These are the questions this meme prompted in me. Time to do some research!
I asked ten friends/family to describe me in ten words. Only one didn’t respond, the rest sent their thoughts to me within hours or days. Thank you for participating!
Evaluating their responses, the following interesting factoids emerged!
- There were 90 words used to describe me, plus 7 bonus words.
- 5 out of the 9 said I was passionate – the 1 word 56% agreed on and 1 word in my list of top 5 self-identified traits!
- There were 5 words I totally disagreed with, but 4 people thought it of me.
- The 1 person who I thought would ace this, didn’t say the 1 thing most people were right about nor use any of the terms which were my top 10.
- Out of the 90 words, 33% said 18 words that I would 100% agree with.
- Only 2 people identified the 2 words – meticulous & organized – that are TRULY 100% me.
- 1 person (and it wasn’t one of my children) said I was motherly.
- 1 person nailed 4 terms I list as my 10 self-identified traits.
- 1 person nailed 3 ” ” “
- 5 people nailed 2 ” ” “
- 1 person nailed 1 ” ” “
Do the questions I asked originally get answered with the data I collected? Yeah, I would say they do. When I look at each individual’s responses and our relationship, they seem to have described what they see in me, not what they take from me. None of the relationships I have feel unbalanced. They are kind and mutually beneficial but not for the gain of material things or taking one another for granted. Our relationships work for each other’s sanity and comfort.
So what does this all really mean? I honestly think who I’ve surrounded myself with people who genuinely think these good things about me, and for that I’m grateful. Are they 100% right? No, but for the most part, they are. What is shows me is that I have displayed these sorts of traits, and for that, I’m proud to have turned out to be someone as they have described.
Ride Or Dies
weeded out
the lifeless forms
of insincerity
holding on
to the last people
i’d lie to
my tribe
the peeps
who are genuine
sustain me
show support
they love me
have my back
and my front
true blue, so few
Layers
remove my skin
it’s superficial anyways
what you see
isn’t always what you get
especially
when i don’t know you
well maybe
it depends on you
what’s inside
is what i decide
to share
you’ll need
to have earned
the privilege
of getting
to know me
… many won’t because all i see of you is what’s on the outside
Never Complete
Layers of learning.
Life is not a restriction.
There are no standards.
**Originally published 1/13/18
Choosing Self
i will care enough
just short
of my destruction
all encounters
have earned
my compassion
but no one
deserves
to end me
