Needing Help With Some Research

#FindingOneInAWorldFullOfMany

Hello Word Press Community!

I was hoping to enlist you for research in the area of love and romance. Are you single? If yes, please consider participating. For those with a gazillion followers, even just reblogging this post would be amazing whether you choose to participate or not. It would be appreciated!

The goal is to get as many responses as I can get. Thousands, if at all possible! I would be so grateful if you could make that happen!

This is first and foremost for research for a piece I would like to ultimately write but the bonus to this social experiment is that it might enable me to possibly help you. I’m not making any guarantees that I can, but I’d like to try! The data gained from this research will be valuable for what I’d like to write about. There is no cost, no membership, no purchase what-so-ever. I’ve created a questionnaire that can hopefully work to bring you to someone who holds the same values you may have. Having said that, you can certainly opt-out of this part of it if you only want to participate for the research piece of it.

So, if you are actively searching and hope to be #FindingOneInAWorldFullOfMany, please click below to be taken to a simple survey. All I ask is that you answer the survey honestly and supply an email address so possible matches can be emailed to you. Before emailing anything to anyone, I will ask permission from all parties. Your email addresses are private, and I will not share them with anyone unless you agree to it. Nor will your email addresses be sold to any third-party. And if you don’t qualify or don’t want to participate but still want to know the outcome from this, please feel free to email me at sushibocks@gmail.com requesting updates. Thanks!!

Click here to be redirected to the survey.

Conclusions

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Do people really see who we are or only what they need from us? Are friendships genuinely based on the affection of those characteristics which appeal the most or are they based on a mutual give and take of needs? These are the questions this meme prompted in me. Time to do some research!

I asked ten friends/family to describe me in ten words. Only one didn’t respond, the rest sent their thoughts to me within hours or days. Thank you for participating!

Evaluating their responses, the following interesting factoids emerged!

  • There were 90 words used to describe me, plus 7 bonus words.
  • 5 out of the 9 said I was passionate – the 1 word 56% agreed on and 1 word in my list of top 5 self-identified traits!
  • There were 5 words I totally disagreed with, but 4 people thought it of me.
  • The 1 person who I thought would ace this, didn’t say the 1 thing most people were right about nor use any of the terms which were my top 10.
  • Out of the 90 words, 33% said 18 words that I would 100% agree with.
  • Only 2 people identified the 2 words – meticulous & organized – that are TRULY 100% me.
  • 1 person (and it wasn’t one of my children) said I was motherly.
  • 1 person nailed 4 terms I list as my 10 self-identified traits.
  • 1 person nailed 3       ”                               ”                            “
  • 5 people nailed 2        ”                               ”                            “
  • 1 person nailed 1       ”                               ”                            “

Do the questions I asked originally get answered with the data I collected? Yeah, I would say they do. When I look at each individual’s responses and our relationship, they seem to have described what they see in me, not what they take from me. None of the relationships I have feel unbalanced. They are kind and mutually beneficial but not for the gain of material things or taking one another for granted. Our relationships work for each other’s sanity and comfort.

So what does this all really mean? I honestly think the people who I’ve surrounded myself are people who genuinely think these good things about me, and for that I’m grateful. Are they 100% right? No, but for the most part, they are. What it shows me is that I have displayed these sorts of traits, and for that, I’m proud to have turned out to be someone as they have described.