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No, not What Would God Do. It’s all on you.

Much of our lives is undoing the damage we brought forth from our childhood into the adult version of us. For years we reacted from an uncomfortable emotional space, unconsciously inhabited, but seemingly normal. Angry, sad, desperate children trapped in a much taller and larger body. But is it possible we could picture how an adult would respond instead of opting for a knee jerk pitch from our past? Might the outcome be different? Even if we can’t always do the best thing in every situation, isn’t it worthy of a try? It would seem to be a good enough reason to make that conscious effort of saying to oneself, “What would a grown-up do?” precisely because continuing to repeat old patterns of behavior gets us nowhere.

Just a thought.

 

Wordle #433

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The Sunday Whirl

The story begins with me filling the thermos with hot coffee. Watching the meme on Facebook made me choke after the first sip I’d swallowed. How did the boy jump into that open window? I try to believe this was not real. “Magic’s a sin, right?” hastily putting down the phone. It immediately caught on fire! Whoa! Now I have grounds to believe in supernatural things. What’s next – me being able to fly

Laughing, I went off fishing. Hooking a line with a worm to put an end to this hunger seemed a much more reasonable thing to do.

Sunshine Blogger Award #4

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This nomination came from Kritika of Undressed Thoughts. Thank you so much for the nomination, Kritika! This was so kind of you to think of me. I appreciate it! Readers of IWH, please go visit her lovely blog.

These nominations are thrilling to get but sometimes very difficult to put into my schedule. This is one of those times so I won’t participate fully but I will answer all of Kritika’s questions. I’ve said it before on many occasions that this is a great way for us to all get to know each other a little better. 🙂

Kritika’s Questions for me

1. Do you search for difficult words in your writing? like I do. I have to search for meaning.

Search, no. They actually find me! I have an app that sends me a Word of the Day. If it’s one I don’t know and it’s interesting, I will try to use it in my writing.

2. What do you prefer tea or coffee? any specific flavor, please mention the same.

Both! But usually more tea and that’s daily. I prefer White Tea.

3. Most of the time, I am found writing while walking to and fro in my room, on my phones notepad. Do you like writing on phones or tablets or laptops?

I prefer writing on my desktop or laptop but I will use my phone if I’m out and about when a thought strikes me for a potential post. Then when I get home I elaborate more and evaluate if it would be a good piece to post.

4. Where would you like to live, if not the current country?

Any country which has a beautiful white sand beach with palm trees and crystal clear blue water.

5. How many books do you have in your own library?

Currently, 127 but my guess is there have probably been close to 500 at one time. These are just the absolute favorites. I’ve probably read into the thousands! LOL

6. Have you participated in any protests for any social cause? Which one and why?

Demonstrated in protests – Women’s rights & LGBT equality – but I support a variety of other causes. Whatever is unjust must be called out, and I do that frequently. 🙂

7. A motivating line of your own, if this was an award given to you on stage.

Sometimes life is just putting one foot in front of the other and going in the direction of a good day. 🙂

8. What genre do you prefer in movies?

Comedies are my favorite but I can get into a good drama with raw emotions.

9. Are you a bathroom singer?

Nope, more like a car singer.

10. How do you spend your Sunday?

First, it’s completely necessary to languish in bed for a bit, then usually writing and reading. And laundry.

11. Do you like watching TV? What do you prefer watching?

Yes, but usually just as side noise. I frequently read blogs when I have the TV on. I adore Survivor, Mom and Madame Secretary. Found another one recently called The Masked Singer. Very entertaining.

Thanks, Kritika! 🙂

Wordle #432

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The Sunday Whirl

I stood right in the middle of it, shaking visibly. There was no hope of escaping the anger emanating from this rally. The hate was palpable. One side wanted his reign to continue; the other wanted him to resign. All the while, he continues to divide us further. Villain or just a genius disguise as he throws shade on those most vulnerable? How can they not see he is such a charlatan? I watched each side form a human chain to protect those behind them. Which one will shoot first?

Shame! Gang mentality is a stain on our country today.

Wish List

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As we’re growing up, we continually shape and define what’s important to us. For me, this was always an easy task as I continually challenged and questioned the world around me. Consistently prioritizing and seeking fairness may be what gave me a strong drive for justice.

I recently came across something I’d written a long time ago. I may have been in my thirties at the time. Not quite sure what prompted the thoughts initially. Even though written over twenty years ago, the original statements remain the same. These are the relatively few things I think I need to stay a calm individual with others. To stay sane, well, that’s another story for another day.

My wishlist:

  • DO what you say. It speaks volumes of you as a person that I can depend on you.
  • Smile when I smile at you. It does us both good. When you are having a bad day, know that my smiles mean I care about you, and it’s meant to lift you.
  • Don’t be a liar – about ANYTHING! I appreciate honesty, above all else. If you are honest, we will always find a way through together.
  • Recognize that every individual on this planet is a human being, including yourself and deserves respect just for that fact alone, regardless of their race, religion, color, gender, sexual preference, political beliefs, or the country where they originated. Maybe then we could look forward to some of that World Peace that beauty contestants speak of during the interview segment.
  • If you can help someone when they need it – DO IT! Giving to someone in his or her hour of defeat is the best gift you can give, every time.
  • Read, learn, listen. Take every opportunity to educate yourself about your world. You are a human being who lives on this planet and in this society. Your understanding of how it works and runs contributes to it running better, for all of us.
  • Please make choices in your life that benefit you, not hurt you. ALL of us deserve a good experience on this earth. I care about you.
  • If you make a mistake or have done something wrong that causes hurt – big or small – take ownership of it, feel genuine remorse and say “I’m Sorry” like you’ll never do it again. Forgiveness feels right for both of us.

Looking at these bullet points now, it feels appropriate to expect these things of others for my well-being. But when I look at my relationships, in general, it seems to challenge people to give these most basic elements. I don’t understand why we wouldn’t want to create harmony over distress.

Then I look at it from the flip-side – am I one hundred percent doing these things for other individuals? And I have to say, no honestly. There are a couple of statements on this list that I’ve periodically had a hard time doing. I’ll leave it to you to decide where you think I’ve fallen. I will say that when I stumble, it’s because of this human ego.

All I ask is that people do their best and maybe remember to keep their ego in check. And I’ll match their efforts. At this stage in my life, I’m more determined than ever to be that person I expect others to be. Something I would never have conceived of doing in my youth.

Here’s to maturity!