All Encompassing

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HK Photo Company – Unsplash

I recently read that the definition of love is liking, respecting and appreciating the authentic being of another. Aiding that person with cooperation during their life journey is another practice of loving someone. That sure sounds nice. But something that, on the surface, seems a little lacking when you think of how someone traditionally describes love. But let’s go with that for now.

Real friendships not only mean there are intense and deep feelings of like, respect and appreciation for each other but having real friends also means you enjoy that additional “I’ve got your back no matter what” mentality with them. Add to that, there is a level of honesty within that connection that occurs which you won’t find in connections more appropriately deemed acquaintances. Life would be harder for us if we didn’t have at least one of these kinds of friendship.

Intentional sexual connections can happen in isolated incidents, with fuck buddies or full-on committed relationships. Having these types of encounters are not only beneficial to us, but they are also enjoyable as well. Keep in mind, having any sexual encounter requires us to dictate what brings us pleasure in order for them to be satisfactory.

I’ve watched people talk about soulmates and “loving like I’ve never loved before” only to see it fizzle out fairly quickly. So were they either not in love, not friends or was it not understood that sex is fleeting and that in long term relationships without a committed effort, sex could become boring not understood to begin with? Of course, each relationship which comes to an end has many varied reasons for the demise but shouldn’t ones that we expect to be everlasting to have the qualities of love, real friendship, and sex?

And if we don’t have all these components as I mentioned above, why are we surprised that the relationships lacking one or more of them are possibly not as fulfilling as we’d like them to be?

I welcome your thoughts!

 

Patient

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Game of Thrones

In my moments of “you’re just too busy”
I’m waiting.

Your agenda is keeping you engrossed.
I’m waiting.

Interests pulling you away.
I’m waiting.

Mandatory manly needs more important at the moment.
I’m waiting.

Just an occasional shout-out would even feel ok.
I’m waiting.

Your work, so fucking important.
I’m waiting.

Your real duty, so obvious.
I’m waiting.

But I’m the needy one.
I’m the crazy one.
The demanding one.
Too fucking sad you got stuck with this woman’s impatience.
You lament.

She’s beyond caring what your reaction may be.

#growthefuckup

 

 

Stay

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Inspired by Reena’s Exploration Challenge 72

My lady, please don’t go.
I offer you protection and love,
being rooted in stability.
Let me envelop you in my wings
and ground you to me.

I can’t, Sir.
Another life demands my attention. 
Being sheltered isn’t what I need
nor want.
Freedom beckons me, so I must go.

Victories

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Ash D. Solomon – Lucid Being

finally tasting
what it means to be proud
of myself
it took too many years
for me to be free
from the contempt
the shame
your shame
forced on me
always making me feel smaller
than you were
knocking me down
me losing my identity
giving up my right to believe in myself

what a horrible mother you were
damn you

treading water
for years
wasted years
of frustration and tears
pushing hard
to break barriers
and maintain
sure would have been easier
knowing my value

you were supposed to be on my side
damn you

did it without you
lived an honorable, scarred life
healed all the wounds
inside and out
ups and downs
gains with each effort
failure was not
an option
because

you weren’t ever my safety net
damn you

me
now
so much better than what was
my time has come
achieving my greatness
feeling good in my skin
owning the center
whole, and comprehending peace
it raises me above your pettiness
and your disgusting competition
finally

damn girl, 
so proud of you

Don’t Wait

I hope you enjoy this truth as much as I did. Thank you for sharing, Precious!

Journeying Through My Thoughts

Don’t wait after I die to weep the unused opportunities of kissing me on the forehead and telling me that you love me.

Do it now… so I can tell you that I love you even more.

#Precious

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Self-Imposed

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do this, then what
do that, then this

options, directions, decisions
helpful? maybe, maybe not

go one way
minute relief

go another
worse than before

they say prioritize
your suffering

work on the major
then tackle the minor

it’s all still chaos
decision or indecision

shackled in pain
cutting out hope